Only you can complete you

Word on the street is that weddings are the new black.

Engagement announcements and white dresses have become more common than loose change for Generation Y and women in their 20’s are starting to believe that if they’re not sporting a ring they’re missing out.

Twenty is so incredibly young. Just 10 years ago many of us didn’t know the difference between foundation and concealer, if we could tell our childhood selves that in ten years they would be having a quarter life crisis over finding a boy, they would laugh in disbelief.

There is nothing wrong with finding your “soul mate” young. However no matter how necessary Nicholas Sparks and Pinterest may make it seem, being in a serious relationship in your 20’s is not a mark of success.

If you’re not in a serious relationship you’re not lacking, you’re simply taking another path.

There isn’t a right or wrong way to fall in love.You cannot be too old or too young, and it is certainly not something that is meant to be pursued like a hot trend.

Much of our generation will spend their time obsessing over finding love. How could we not? The notion that a relationship is the pinnacle of life’s accomplishments has become imbedded into society. It’s in the movies we see, the books we read, our friends tweets and Facebook posts and the music that we listen to.

Don’t let the pop. love culture suck you into the belief that when it comes to relationships “everyone is doing it.” Because they’re not.

According to the U.S. Census, the average age of marriage is now the oldest since they started keeping track in the 1890s: almost 26 for women and 28 for men. As a 20 –year-old, six years is a long time. So why the rush?

 Our generation associates the happiness of couples to happiness as a whole. We conclude that in order to be happy we must be in a relationship, 2 + 2 = 4, right? Wrong.

I have a friend who recently ended a relationship because it directly conflicted with a her childhood dream of teaching at an elementary school in Tulsa. From an outsiders perspective this girl is selfish, stubborn and misguided. Why would she choose something as petty as location over true love?

Probably because she hasn’t jumped on the “star crossed lovers” band wagon.

She put her passion first because she understands that she is just as complete without that relationship as she was with it.

A full and happy life does not stem from a relationship and quite frankly, if you’re looking for another person to complete you, you will never be complete.

The only person who can complete you is you.

Why women make terrible leaders

The 2016 elections are just around the corner and with a woman in the race for president, America is warming up to the sound of its first ‘first man.’

The possibility of a Mrs. President symbolizes leaps and bounds for all of woman kind. But regardless of how far we’ve come, women will never be able to escape the fact that we’re just not genetically cut-out for leadership.

Here’s why:

• Woman CEO’s suck: A Harvard business review study found that out of 7,300 CEO’s surveyed, women rated higher than men in 12 out of 16 competency categories.

• The public hates women governors: A study conducted by Various found that the highest approval ratings for U.S. governors were Maggie Hassan of New Hampshire, Susana Martinez of New Mexico and Nikki Haley of South Carolina; While the lowest rated governors were Rick Scott of Florida and Chris Christie of New Jersey.

• Women don’t have the power to get things done: A 2014 study done by Zenger Folkman found that women scored five percent higher in overall leadership effectiveness.

• Women don’t have the right traits to lead: The same 2014 Zenger study found that surveyed female leaders scored higher than surveyed male leaders in initiative, integrity, honesty, self-development and over-all achievement of desired results.

• The employees of female leaders are not impressed: A study done by the American Psychological Association found that in a survey of American company leaders and employees, male leaders rated themselves as more effective than women while women leaders were rated by their employees as more effective than men.

• Women are unable to get money: According to a study done by the American Journal of Political Science, women legislators secured $49 million more per year for their district than male legislators. Ultimately, the study found that bills sponsored by women survived longer in the legislative process, had more press attention and were considered more important by the public.

• America doesn’t want women in political leadership: In a Gallup survey, 63 percent of citizens interviewed said than women govern better while a mere 13 percent said that women govern worse.

• Men are better communicators: Unlike men, the majority of women don’t have a need to control the people below them. This makes for a more community based work environment and ultimately increases effectiveness.

• Women don’t understand business: A Dow Jones study found that business start-ups are more likely to succeed long-term if they have a woman on the executive team.

• Women aren’t as smart as men: A Psychology Today study found that in 2012, women earned 63 percent of the master’s degrees and 54 percent of the doctoral and professional degrees in America.

• Women are bad at saving and managing money: A BMO study found that men are more likely to carry large amounts of debt, with 30 percent reporting more than $100,000 of debt compared to 22 percent of women.

• Women are dangerous: A 2011 United States Department of Justice report showed that 91 percent of all homicides in the United States were committed by men.

• Women just cant seem to grow up: According to a Nickelodeon headquarters study, men have an 11 year lag behind women when it comes to mental maturity.

 

Facts don’t lie.

Clearly, we’re better suited for baking than business.